I’ve been writing about The Missing Piece since the initial stages of the pandemic and figured it would be a good idea to write some kind of vignettes in which I thought it would be good to share it with you, a missing piece that you and I were searching for. As I outlined in the previous blog (I highly suggest you read part 1 before reading this part 2, click here – part 1), we can all speak about losing anyone you care about, quitting a job, or the pandemic, but I just want to focus on how to conceptualise a piece within yourself. This one is all about maximizing your time and utilising it to find the piece you’re looking for. I saw a video where Floyd Mayweather, I believe, mentioned it. “You have 24 hours in a day, use them wisely,” he said, before explaining how he did it. That is what motivated me to write this piece about how we can use time wisely to find the piece.
You have 24 hours a day to live your life. Everyone knows we do, but we don’t really consider how we use it, and here’s why. Let’s just say, we sleep about 8 hours and that’s 8 hours of your time gone. Then, breakfast, lunch and dinner take an hour each, so that’s 3 hours. That adds up to 11 hours in total. 1 hour to work and an hour back, so that makes what? 13. You work 8 hours, which makes 21 in total. Now, you have 3 hours of YOUR time to do whatever you want to do. But do you realise what we mostly waste our time on? Netflix, Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, you name it. What if we actually use those 3 hours of “ME” time to find the piece we always want to look out for? A piece could have been, you wanting to learn how to play the guitar and perfect your craft or a time to allow yourself to heal and do good deeds for the world. It seems that we don’t. This is something that we can all relate since the beginning of the pandemic.
We take life for granted; we don’t pause to focus on ourselves or consider how the world works. We were too preoccupied with seeing friends for drinks, playing games, talking on the phone, and wasting our time in our lives. I know it sounds cliché, but I am writing a blog for you to read, but I am also assisting you in the sense that I want you to discover the piece you are searching for in order to be content and understand yourself well mentally and emotionally. I’m not saying you shouldn’t go out with your friends or something. That depends on whether or not you work on weekends and how you spend your time. It’s simply recognising who you are and how you can change.
For example, you met someone who is a wonderful human being, but he/she dedicated their time to wanting to see their friends all the time. All you could hear from them saying –
“There’s nothing I want to do with my life that is making me happy. All I do is wake up in the morning, go to work, come back home, make dinner. Then I just speak to you or my friends, watch TV, but I am not happy with myself or not knowing what I want to do.”
Then, your advice that you would give to your friend would be:
“Don’t think about spending your time seeing your friends is going to help you any better to find the piece to make you happy.”
I know the pandemic has been difficult for all of us. However, we really need to reflect on ourselves on something bigger than us that we could be happy about. I shared this little story because it’s based on my personal experience. However, you can think of every similar scenario when it comes to someone struggling to figure out how to be happy with the time they have. You know there’s always a saying that everyone keeps saying, “Make yourself happy first before you can make others happy?” We can all say that we got to love ourselves before we can love another person, but in my point of view, how do we find the piece within us before we move to the next step? The thing is you don’t. You don’t have to agree with me, but this is a conversation we should discuss with our loved ones or write something in your diary, or on your phone.
My point is that this person may not know themselves, but I recognise the problems because I’ve dealt with them. I was trying to help, but it just ended in an unexpected moment, where I spent much of my time trying to figure out what went wrong. Until I realised that I should try to find the piece myself. Focus on the time I have, and how to utilise it. I believe it was a calling for me to return to blogging, do a video podcast, and talk to people about my political and social views, which I’ve always been passionate about. Since then, I’ve struggled to find the time to write or do something proactive until I saw the Mayweather video about 24 hours a day, use it wisely.
I want you to understand that it’s ok to have a lazy moment when you’re struggling to find the time or need to just sit down and watch TV and have a beer or glass of wine. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. I’m just saying that if you’re feeling unmotivated and don’t know how to use your time to accomplish your goals or complete the piece, I’m here to help. Then, I highly recommend using the method that I mentioned earlier. Cristiano Ronaldo dedicated his time effectively to being a footballer, and his intention was to be the best, which he still strives for to this day. It’s the same for any celebrity or anyone you look up to as a role model. We all have a limited amount of time; we never know when it will be our last day, so how can we use it so that we can be satisfied when we find the piece?
“For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.”